At primary school, it was so much easier, you could just go up to a kid you liked the look of and say 'Will you be my friend?' They'd look you up and down and decide either yes or no and off you'd go on your merry way, undoubtedly holding hands with your new friend!
Real life, it seems isn't as easy as that. I've been going to some playgroups for a couple of months now and I know a few of the Mum's by sight. I tend to have a chat with a few of them during the course of the session, but that's as far as it goes really. And I'm not sure how to take it further?
Do I just wait it out and hope that something develops in time?
There's a particular Mum who has 2 children similar age to mine and lives fairly close to me and is nice enough, but I don't know how to take it further. It seems too forward to just invite her round for coffee, but maybe I'll just have to take the plunge. I'm going to try encouraging my eldest to play with her eldest in the hope we can set up some play dates in the future maybe.
It's just so hard, there is another Mum who I have really taken a liking too as well and we've had the odd brief friendly conversation. Last week I was stood next to her as she was arranging a day out with another one of the Mum's this week, and I really wanted to shout out 'I want to come too, invite me, invite me!!' Obviously I didn't though, I just stood and smiled politely whilst they arranged their day of fun.
I just don't know how to take it to the next level now, maybe I just need time and let things happen naturally, but its hard when people say 'Oh have you got any friends yet?'
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